The NOT To-Do List

The NOT To-Do List

Well, here we are, plowing through January. It seems like life is moving at warp speed, yet, at the same time, we can often feel stuck in the same ole, same ole over and over again. Lately, my clients have been expressing their desire for clarity. There is this eagerness to make much-needed changes and move forward to the life they have dreamt about. They can feel the need to shift gears but there also seems to be a paralyzing sense of confusion keeping them stuck. It is as if the answers they seek are evading them. If any of this sounds familiar to you then keep reading because the angels have the advice to help you get moving in the right direction.

LIFE CAN BE BUSY. To-do lists can be never-ending and distractions seem to pop up at every turn. Ever make a plan and even find some motivation to get things done but somehow feel like you still don’t make any progress?

This can feel super defeating and leave you feeling completely drained.

It is discouraging to see that time keeps passing by and you feel like you are still at a standstill. The standing still is so frustrating because your soul is screaming there is something so much more that is out there. You believe this to be true but just can’t seem to get there.

The angels are saying now IS the time you must do things differently.

Those dreams you have been dreaming and those changes you have been trying to make ARE important and getting there involves follow through and stealth attention.

They suggest starting a NOT TO DO LIST and focus on that first before you aim your sights on creating another To-Do list.

A Not to Do List?  Yes!!!

Here is what they suggest NOT TO be doing now and why:


This is not working. Truth is, it probably never has been. Now, you must step into a new way of managing your life, time, and energy. These goals and changes that are important to you need your time, energy, and focus. Even small steps will lead to progress. Move them to the top of your priority list and potentially to the beginning of your day. This will help you gain momentum. This means you may have to let other things go. It will be okay. The angels can help you define those things that are less important right now so that you can focus on true priorities. This also means scheduling time for rest and fun so you can experience more balance.


As I said above the angels can help you prioritize where your energy and attention need to be and then help you stay focused. Distractions are normal but you have the power to steer yourself back on track the moment you realize you have veered off course. Limit social media scrolling and binge-watching television. You can set time for that in the latter part of the day as a reward for accomplishments, but still, place a limit on it.


Self-care is a must! Especially right now. Reviewing your habits and asking yourself what you need will be key. Listen to what your body, mind, and soul tells you. There is so much wisdom to be revealed when you simply ask yourself that question. Commit to the time, energy and effort it will take to give yourself what it is asking for. This will begin to shift your energy immediately and you will quickly begin to get into a higher vibrational flow. Self-care is an investment that always pays great returns!


You are moving forward and unless you are pulling out the growth and lessons from the past you do not need to be there. Your focus needs to be on what you are wanting to create which is new, different, and amazing. Pain, suffering, regrets, grief, and sorrow are not going to help you get where you are going. If these things show up ask if they have some important wisdom to offer you and if not disconnect and move on.


This includes clutter, clothes, commitments, friendships, habits, and hobbies. You are moving into a time where things need to be a Heck Yes or a Hell No! What is this stuff laying around? Do I use it? Do I need it? These clothes in my closet, when have I wore them last? Do I feel awesome in them? If no, let them go. Your commitments, do they still serve you and the higher good or are they draining you of time and energy? It is okay to move on. Are your friendships a wonderful balance of giving and take? Are any toxic or unhealthy? If so, time to cut the cord. Have you engaged in a hobby lately? Are you doing it out of habit or are you still passionate about it? Love and joy lift us out of limitations and into our highest potential! This is where you want to be.


This hardly exists and it is the ultimate stalling tactic. Do not wait for what you think maybe the definition of perfect. Just get moving and you will gain more clarity and certainty along the way. As you create your new reality more pieces of the puzzle will fall into place as you consistently tune in to yourself and your desires. Action is necessary and we rarely have it all figured out in the beginning. Having a plan is good but staying in the planning mode gets you nowhere.


Do not forget your why! Why do you want to reach these goals? How will your life be different? How will it be better? If your why is important and big enough the how will be just as important to you too. Let the excitement and importance of your why help you figure out the how. There are always solutions to any challenge. And, as I always say God and the angels are in the solution business!


Feeling overwhelmed and the weight of your dreams beginning to feel heavy on your shoulders? As I mentioned above, God and the angels are in the solution business. Have you asked for help? Maybe you need to ask for earthly help to show up too. Who is already in your life that loves you enough to hold your dreams and visions with you and maybe even be an accountability partner? Joining forces with a trusted ally can be equally beneficial and keep you in check and on track. Opening yourself up to receive is key to getting in the flow and that is where you want to be.

 Putting these things into practice, you will begin to open a space for something new to enter. Before you know it you will look back and see progress instead of stalemate.

Keep in mind that every step forward is taking you in the right direction. It will be important to track your wins so as to remind your ego when it wants to rear its ugly head. Don’t give up before your blessings have a chance to surprise you. Prayer, intentions, and actions are the seeds you have been planting and your crops are growing into fruition. Do you believe it? If not, then a good dose of faith is exactly what you need. The angels can help to buoy your faith and help you dig deep and remind you of the truth of your being. You are a powerful, creative force of love! Now get creating!

It’s going to be a wild and fabulous ride!

A Special New Year’s Eve Message

A Special New Year’s Eve Message

I wanted to share something with you on this special day that many of you may be celebrating.

I recently read about an old New Year’s Eve Irish tradition.

At midnight, the Irish open their front door to let out the Old Year and invite in the New Year. I really love this idea and plan to add this as a new tradition for myself. I love the physical action of releasing the past and acknowledging all that it has offered us. This includes the challenges, the lessons, the growth, the blessings, opportunities and miracles, too. After saying goodbye to all of our previous experiences, we then can really open ourselves up to God and the universe, remembering our limitless potential and invite all of the beauty and magic we are hoping to experience.

When we combine those hopes and desires with a dose of unshakeable faith, we truly are able to move mountains.

Now, I know this year has been super challenging for many. Myself included. But I can also recognize and acknowledge the gifts that were planted amidst the stressors, the uncertainties, losses and let downs. I am grateful for these gifts and have been reminded of who I am and the great power that lies within me.

Now, one day and one change in number on our yearly counter does not magically change everything in an instant. I am not expecting my fairy godmother to show up at midnight and wave her magic wand and fix everything that I feel still needs fixing. However, I am choosing to stay, positive, mindful and present. I am choosing Love. ❤️

I am choosing Joy. I am committed to holding myself accountable to keep my intentions clear and my actions steady. One foot in front of the other. I know the path before me holds unlimited possibilities and that I have unlimited potential.

The same holds true for you my friend. My prayer 🙏  is that you feel inspired to love yourself wholly and truly embrace your heart’s desires as you venture into this new chapter of life. Regardless of how daunting this may feel or how defeated you may have felt in the past, I urge you to just keep putting one foot in front of the other. And, when you open the door to this New Year may you get a glimpse of how beautiful your story is unfolding.



Each step I take on my journey is filled with joy, love, peace and purpose.

My unshakeable faith keeps me excited about what I am creating for myself..

And So It Is ~


Prayers of peace, prosperity, perfect health and joy to you and yours!

It’s time you receive some Holiday Gratitude and Love!

It’s time you receive some Holiday Gratitude and Love!


I wanted to take this moment to tell you how grateful I am to have you in my life. Even if we have never met face to face (or even Zoom to Zoom thanks to 2020), I appreciate the opportunity to connect with you, even via email.

Christmastime brings great gratitude to my heart and regardless of what holiday you may celebrate I want you to know I think about you often, pray for you sincerely and wish great things for your life. I truly consider my time and the connections I have made with all of my clients to be a true honor and blessing and my hope is that you feel that in your time spent with me. As we bring this year to a close I want to remind you of how deeply you are loved and supported. Remember to call on this loving support often. This is the season to GIVE but it is also the season to RECEIVE. I look forward to what the future holds for all of us and I look forward to staying connected with you.

Below you will find a prayer I wrote years ago during the holiday season. I find myself coming back to it often as the sentiment still holds true to what I desire for you.



May you experience JOY in everything you do,
Beauty in everything you see,
HOPE in everything you desire,
And FAITH in everything that you are.

May your blessings be abundant and your gratitude, too.
May you practice peace on earth and goodwill towards men.
May you spread Love and Light wherever you may go.
And may you always remember how very much you are loved.
And So It Is ~


There are many wonderful things I am working on, and, of course, I am always available for one-on-one sessions when you need me.

Tidings of Comfort and Joy!

Love, Light & Blessings,

Clear, Connect, Create

Clear, Connect, Create

What a blessing it is to be alive right now and experience the beautiful unfolding of a new time and age. The path may have felt challenging to get to this point, but one worth the while nonetheless. If you look back at some of your greatest challenges over the last year, I encourage you to look at what was gained, as many of you were forced into changes that served you in blessed ways. The upcoming energies are here to serve us as well, and what is important to remember is that we are more than our physical experiences. As things continue to bubble to the surface may you remember that in a spiritual sense, we are birthing a new reality.

Here are some things you can expect …

  • The opportunity to open up to outstanding change, more than we have ever seen before
  • A greater sense of relief
  • A feeling of expansion and growth
  • A more comfortable relationship with abundance and the call to allow yourself to receive
  • A feeling of release, unloading and surrender
  • More energy. As if, what has previously been draining you has lost its power.
  • A stronger connection to your intuitive self

This sounds pretty good, doesn’t it? But what do you need to do to honor what is being offered up? Here is what you can focus on:

  • Hold sacred space for yourself. Commit to doing this for you, before you hold it for others.
  • Connect with your spiritual helpers frequently. Let them guide your way.
  • Observe yourself. How are you feeling? What do you need?
  • Reflect. Take the time to process things instead of just moving on.
  • Make the time to turn your dreams into goals. Then take action.
  • Focus on your desires, not your fears.
  • Connect with and engage with the things you are for and do not put tremendous focus on the things you feel you are against.
  • Remember that you are a being of divine light.

I hold the intention that you feel connected to the path before you and that you travel it with great strength, clarity, ease and grace. May you say yes to the many opportunities that show up for you. Especially the ones that push you outside of your comfort zone.

Because oftentimes the path is easier to navigate with some sound help and guidance, I am offering a special new service to help you gain clarity and make the most out of these energetic shifts we are experiencing. This new 60-minute session is called Clear, Connect, Create!

woman connecting to spirit_heather Hildebrand

It will include:

  • Guidance for the first three months of the year
  • What each month’s goals and focus should be specifically
  • Which angels and spiritual helpers you should be working with each month
  • An energetic tune-up to clear anything that may have been holding you back

The goal of these sessions is to empower you and as always, my goal is to be of love and service to you.
These sessions are available to book through February 16, 2021, but spaces are limited.

Grab your spot today if you are interested!

May you embrace the rest of 2020 with grace, gratitude and a heart full of hope and walk into 2021 with a plan, purpose and your spiritual team by your side!

Much Love and Many Blessings,


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I Get Knocked Down… But I Get Up Again!

I Get Knocked Down… But I Get Up Again!

A few weeks ago, I was sitting at my desk in my home office when another one of those kicks to the gut came. Man, it hurt. My energy was immediately zapped. Although my heart knew that I just had to stay focused and keep moving forward my head was ready to shut down. My body could feel it too. So, I did what I always do in a situation like that and I started talking to my angels. I started telling them that I was so grateful that in the midst of the many, many challenges my family had faced this year I was grateful for the countless ways we had been taken care of. I told them that I was really struggling and although I trusted that everything would work out fine yet once again, I was really worn down and just needed to vent and talk it through. In true angel style, they listened, gave advice and even acknowledged my pain. They said they were proud of me and encouraged me to keep going.

Then, they played a song in my head. “I get knocked down, but I get up again. You are never gonna keep me down!” I had to laugh. My angels always have a sense of humor and although crying has always been a great release for me, they always seem to know when laughter will be the better medicine.

I won’t say I immediately felt better, but the sting began to wear off. 

I share this with you because I know that some of you have experienced so many personal trials of your own alongside the already unpredictable and stressful year of 2020.

Of course, I had to google the song. The band is called Chumbawamba, and the song is titled Tubthumper.

If you find yourself struggling through a challenging day maybe you will remember this email, this song and remember that you too can get up again and keep going. Of course, you never have to do it alone. Your angels are right by your side, ready and willing to help. Remember, the tough moments don’t last forever and hopefully, they make us appreciate the peaceful moments all the more.

We’ve got this! We just need to remember who we are and who all is on our side.

Big Hugs and Majestic High Fives,


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How To Tell If You Are Absorbing Negativity

How To Tell If You Are Absorbing Negativity

Today I wanted to take the time to reach out to all of you and answer a question that has been coming up lately from some of my clients. Many of my clients have shown concern about how they can determine when they are absorbing negativity from other people. With so many things happening in our world at once it can be a little confusing to understand just exactly what you are feeling, why you are feeling it and what to do about it.

But what if you are absorbing negativity from someone else?

Well, guess what? It isn’t just other people that we can absorb negativity from. Situations and even places can affect our energy.

What do I mean? Well, think about it, our televisions alone can often trigger fear or confusion just by watching the nightly news. When we least expect it, our energy can be affected in a multitude of ways.
So, how would one know if this was happening? What could this feel like?

Here are just some of the symptoms:

  • Feeling tired when there is not a logical reason too feel tired
  • Unexplained moodiness or anger
  • Feeling like you are in a funk or feeling “off”
  • Lowered energy levels
  • Feeling super needy
  • Increased addictive cravings
  • A desire to isolate oneself
  • Interrupted sleep patterns or insomnia
  • A feeling of heaviness
  • Random headache, stomach ache or body pains
  • Feeling repelled by someone or something

So, if you find yourself being affected by negative energy, what can you do to cleanse yourself of its effects and get back in an empowered state?

Set very clear intentions to release all negativity while doing some of these things:

  • Tell it to GO!!!
  • Shake it off! Literally. Do some jumping jacks, go for a walk or jump up and down.
  • Sing! Find a favorite song and sing at the top of your lungs!
  • Take a hot, clearing bath. Epsom salts, essential oils whatever your favorite mix is.
  • Laugh!!! Find something to laugh about. Watch a comedy bit or read some funny jokes.
  • Dance! Pump up the jam and dust off your dance moves.
  • Get outside in nature. Spend at least 15-20 minutes outside.
  • Eat a healthy meal.
  • Cut cords. Literally envision yourself with a sharp sword cutting any negative cords that may have attached to you.
  • Pray
  • Meditate
  • Do something creative
  • Change up your routine to break up any stagnation
  • Spend time with animals
  • Use incense, frankincense, myrrh, palo santo, sandalwood, sage or sweet grass

Now, this is far from a complete list but it definitely points you in the right direction.
Remember, that your awareness is key. When our energy takes a hit it is easy to get complacent about your situation, but that will never offer you a sense of peace.

Need a preventative measure to keep you wrapped in protection? Here is a good affirmation
to offer you extra protection throughout the day.

 Taking just a few moments throughout the day to check in with where you are energetically can make all the difference in the world. I want you to experience the best of each day, standing in your power and feeling fully alive and energized.

Much love and many blessings,

Looking to connect to loved ones?

I offer mediumship sessions in person, over the phone and online. Due to COVID-19 I am limiting my time in my physical office to 2 days a week and asking that everyone follow all COVID-19 precautions by entering the building with a mask. Please note that phone sessions are equally effective as in-person sessions. Mediumship readings offer you an opportunity to connect with loved ones on the other side and receive validation that the love that you shared with them is still very much alive. I would love the opportunity to connect with you and your loved ones in heaven.

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When Your Dad Is In Heaven Father’s Day Is Different

When Your Dad Is In Heaven Father’s Day Is Different

 It’s hard to believe that my dad has been gone for over 18 years. I remember the last Father’s Day I spent with him. We met for breakfast at a restaurant called the “Busy Bee.” It was a nice day and my son was full of energy and excited to see his Pop. I remember the gift I gave him that year. You see, my dad was not necessarily easy to buy for. He did not have hobbies or favorite things. His time was always spent working and it was usually a struggle to come up with something creative to gift to him. However, this year in particular I had finally come up with something I knew that would make him smile. I had crafted a small scrapbook filled with pictures of him and my son. It included photos at the zoo, photos of them pretending to shave, photos by the swimming pool and of walking the dog.

Heather's Dad with son Dalton

Son Dalton with Pops

It captured a lot of beautiful memories that the two had made together. This held an important significance because it wasn’t but a month or two before that my dad had told me that he was afraid my son would not remember him. I knew he was thinking of his mortality. He had been sick for a long time and I think he intuitively knew that his time was drawing near. I felt this scrapbook would not only be something my dad would enjoy but also something my son could cherish forever. It would remind him of how much Pop loved his little buddy. It was my way of telling my dad that I would never let him be forgotten.

Much happened over those next few months. My daughter was born almost three weeks early. My dad was elated to hold her, feed her a bottle and brag about her to anyone that would listen. It was a very happy time but I could tell he was struggling physically. Then on September 11, 2001, as I held my sweet baby girl in my arms in my hospital bed and I watched the second plane hit the twin tower in New York, life stood still and soon would forever be different for a multitude of reasons.

Heather Hildebrand's daughter Demi with her Dad

Daughter Demi with Pops

We were rushed to be checked out of the hospital and on the car ride home I called my mom. As excited as I was to have them over later that evening to spend time with the baby I was also saddened by all that was happening in our world. I wanted to check in with them to see how they were feeling about all that was going on. However, she informed me that they would not be coming over because she was having to take my dad to the hospital. I remember crying when I hung up with her. My heart felt like this was the beginning of the end. And it was. Dad was hospitalized for thirteen days when he passed away. We ended up burying him on my daughter’s original due date. In the midst of the sorrow, I had to acknowledge what a wonderful blessing it was that he got to meet my daughter before he passed. Had she not arrived early our story would have been very different. I am grateful that even in the darkest of times the light of miracles still shines through.

But let’s face it, death changes everything. We rarely know when it’s going to be the last birthday we celebrate with a loved one, the last Thanksgiving we will enjoy together, or for me, the last time you get to treat your dad to a Father’s Day breakfast.

Father’s Day is a little different when your dad is in heaven. It’s kind of like having a little hole in your heart and there is just not enough putty in the world to fill it up.

Dads are often our biggest supporters and protectors. One thing I know for sure is they are still serving that role from the other side. Daddies still love their children from heaven. It does not matter how young or old you are. Their love is limitless and powerful and perfect. It finds its way from their hearts to yours and it always, always will.

Although we can’t get one more hug, hear one last joke or see one last smile, we can stay open to the signs that their love still surrounds us.

If your dad is in heaven take a few moments this Father’s Day to look for the signs that he is still ever-present with you. You would be surprised by the ways that they will get your attention. 

Heather – Daddy’s Girl

Looking to connect to loved ones?

I offer mediumship sessions in person, over the phone and online. Due to COVID-19 I am limiting my time in my physical office to 2 days a week and asking that everyone follow all COVID-19 precautions by entering the building with a mask. Please note that phone sessions are equally effective as in-person sessions. Mediumship readings offer you an opportunity to connect with loved ones on the other side and receive validation that the love that you shared with them is still very much alive. I would love the opportunity to connect with you and your loved ones in heaven.

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When Heaven Reaches Out to Say Hello

When Heaven Reaches Out to Say Hello

Let’s face it. Life can get hectic. There are a hundred reasons each day to get distracted and miss those loving signs sent from heaven above. But, in those moments they work hard to get our attention and we notice, THOSE MOMENTS are some of the best moments EVER! When I receive one of those gifts, I must say my life is sweeter, my heart is overflowing and my gratitude is through the roof!